I mentioned yesterday that another single women is posting questions about adopting from Ukraine.

I adopted my darling Natasha from Ukraine in 2000 at 3.5 years of age. I was 32 years old and single. I am 38 years old now and still single. Natasha is 9 years old.

In my early 20s I decided.... no husband by 30... I would look into adoption. I could get pregnant. But I decided that I didn't need to get pregnant. I didn't have baby fever. And I had become concerned about human overpopulation due to my studies in high school and college. Why should I add another child to the planet when there were children in need of homes?

Looking back on my decision I wonder if part of it... Subconsciously came from not wanting to carry my father's DNA into the future. My father is not a nice man. My parents divorced when I was 11 year old. My father fought to not get any custody. He abandoned me directly and indirectly in many other ways.

And to my knowledge he never went to jail. I enjoyed my conversations with the FBI during my teenage years. My father was "just" a person of interest. They just wanted to talk to him. Since my last name = father's last name.... and we were listed in the phone book... When the FBI wanted to talk to my father, they called us. I would point them in his direction.

In high school when I was angry, I would talk about my father as the "sperm donor". If I was fairly calm, I would call him my bio-dad. DNA was all that he left. He didn't want a relationship.

He un-invited me to my grandfather's funeral a few years ago. He promised to make a huge scene if I showed up. I don't understand why he hates me, but it isn't my problem. I cannot fix other people. Out of respect for my grandmother I didn't go.

My father taught me that a genetic relationship doesn't make a relationship.