Ukraine Adoption, Eastern European Adoption

04/18/06

Adopting a Second Child

Posted by : Angela in Ukraine Adoption Blog at 10:20 pm , 403 words, 132 views
Categories: Adoption Process, SDAPRC

I adopted my daughter, Natasha, from Ukraine about 5 years ago. She is in a good place emotionally, physically and mentally. She is so ready to be an older sister. And I want to parent 2 children.

So I started exploring my option adoptions again last year. I wanted to adopt from Ukraine again. But then adoption was closed down in September 2005 to Americans unless they want to adopt a child 10 year or older, handicapped or a sibling of a previously adopted child.

Natasha needs to be the oldest child and will be 9 years of age in May. I want to adopt a school-aged child, 5 to 8 years of age. So Ukraine is out for now. I know that some people are hoping the adoption restrictions will be removed soon. This is based on a belief that all Americans will turn in their annual reports or the SDA will remove the restrictions.

I don’t believe things will change with the SDA opening on May 1 or May 3 (I have seen both dates as the opening date for the SDA). But I do believe that Americans, who were registered for adoption before September 2005, will get their appointments.

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So I started exploring adoption from foster care. I don’t want to foster-adopt, but rather adopt from foster care.

I think fostering children would break my heart. I know too many families who have burned out by the system. So I signed up just to adopt a school aged child.

I did the classes and my home study is completed. And I have been warned it could take 6 months to 3 years to never. And I am open to special needs, school age child and any race.

There are 2 strikes against me. I want to adopt just one child. There are more sibling groups available. And I am not fostering. Foster parents typically get the opportunity to match to their foster child before anyone else is considered. Sigh..........

So I have started looking at other options again. Maybe Ukraine will be an option, if I wait another year.

I was a little sad this evening... thinking how far away I am from adoption my second child.

So I sat and watched the stars this evening, which is why I have NASA photos in tonights blog.

First Image Credit: NASA, ESA, P. Kalas and J. Graham (University of California, Berkeley) and M. Clampin (NASA/GSFC)

Second Image Credit: NASA/ESA/STScI

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Comment from: AdelaideDupont [Member]

I am sure the stars comforted you, Angela.

It is a VERY hard decision.

I hope the restrictions are resolved soon. I wish people who did not send in their reports realised how selfish they were being. I suppose they were busy and I do allow for that.

Do you ever worry that Natasha would not be in a good place by next year? She is in puberty after all, or is going to be. "She is so ready to be an older sister" would be a good thing. I think Natasha would make an excellent big sister because she knows how to take care of people and she is a support to you.

I hope your homestudy takes place quickly. The age span is manageable and I hope the child will be different enough from Natasha that he or she will be able to shine in their own way.

Permalink 04/18/06 @ 22:45

Comment from: Michelle Vandepas [Member]

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Angela, My heart goes out to you. I totally understand. I encourage you to try foster-adopt. Depending upon where you are, and the agency, you might get a pretty good placememnt right out of the chute...The trouble with only doing adopt out of foster care, without fostering first, is that it takes away your chances of getting a child whose rights haven't been terminated yet, but will be.

Anyhow I'm sure you will do the right thing for your family, and I'm happy for you that Natasha is doing well.

Permalink 04/19/06 @ 06:18

Comment from: peggyt [Member]

Dear ANGELA
I have three kids from Kazakhstan and Im starting my fourth a little boy 3.They are all from disrupted adoptions, I choose to do open adoption with all the childrens first american families.I love these families as much as I do the kids.I helped kids off the streets for years. Then we decided to adopt up to 6 foster kids, to keep a family together.The experiance was terrible. Not because of the kids, but the system.I would never do it again ,and that broke my heart because of all the wonderful kids in foster care.Because I had a homestudy someone ask me if I wanted to adopt a little boy from a disruption, I said yes right away. Thats how it all started.There are families out there who looking to place their children in a different home. Sometimes the match just dosnt work ,I know that is hard for anyone to understand, but how many people get a divorce every year, are they bad people? I never looked to adopt from disruption ,they found me and I thank GOD every day. My children are wonderful and so are their families.My husband and I are completly dedicated to these kids, its our ministry. I would never try to do what I do without Gods help and guidence.Its sounds like you have lots of room in your heart for children ,I will pray God blesses you with the desires of your heart.

God Bless
Peggy T

Permalink 04/20/06 @ 07:48

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